Pamela Wright, ESQ.

Share What You Know

This morning I woke up and read one of my favorite power-filled scriptures:

"Faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see" - Hebrews 11:1

I have held onto these words for many years and let me tell you - God has come through for me!   What inspires you?  One thing I know for sure is that we must be conscious of what inspires us and go there for inspiration as we journey through our lives.  Whether it's a favorite saying, scripture, book, place or thing - we must be proactive in finding healthy inspiration.

Many blessings,

Pam

9 Steps to Get Empowered and Achieve Your Goals!

Here's an article I wrote this year to develop a blueprint for the path to empowerment:

What is Empowerment?  It is the process of being given authority and the power to be or do something.

At this point, some of you may be thinking, "GREAT but how can I get empowered?"  Here's 9 steps to help you get empowered and achieve your goals.  Keep in mind that organic empowerment focuses on you taking responsibility for your life and moving forward relying on God's power.

Step 1 - Ask Yourself, "What Do I Believe About Myself?"

     Listen.

Step 2 - Identify the Values that Comprise Your Foundation.

     Values are the principles you have consciously or unconsciously chosen to live by.

Step 3 - Keep Your Good Values and Release Your Negative Values. Replace Negative Values with Good Values, As You Find Necessary to be Whole.  Believe You Were Created by God for Good.

     Let your intuition guide you.

Step 4 - Identify One Goal or Multiple Goals

     Choose something.

Step 5 - Develop An Action Plan to Achieve Your Goals.

     Write it down.

Step 6 - Implement Your Action Plan.

     Be brave and courageous.  Everything is an opportunity to learn.

Step 7 - Assess the Process and Your Results.  Is It Working?  Is it Effective?

     Face the facts and breathe.  Pray as needed.

Step 8 - Revise Accordingly.  Keep What's Working.  Change What's Not.

     Research via books, Google, and word of mouth to find solutions.  Seek input from advisors as needed to formulate solutions.  Trust your instincts and be open to learning something new.

Step 9 - Celebrate Your Success, Growth and/or Learning.  Tell Yourself Good Things.  Encourage Thyself!

     Empowerment is a process.  Enjoy it!

Copyright 2007, Pamela Wright, All rights reserved.

Some of you may be wondering if this process works.  It does!  I have used it personally to get empowered and achieve my goals!!

Pam   

Your Honor, We Don't Want A Divorce, We're Getting Back Together!

One day I was sitting in court waiting for my case to be called and the case heard before mine went something like this.  Facts have been changed but the gist of the story remains. 

Judge:  I'm calling the case of Smith v. Smith. 

Petitioner:  Good Morning, Your Honor. 

Respondent nods his head up and down to confirm it is indeed a good morning.

Judge:  We're here today on Petitioner's OSC for support.  Have the parties exchanged their Income and Expense Declarations.

Petitioner:  No, Your Honor. 

Judge:  Well, you need to do that in order for child and spousal support to be calculated. 

Petitioner:  We're not getting divorced, Your Honor.  We've decided to reconcile and stay together.

Judge looks at Respondent. 

Judge:  Is this true, sir?

Respondent nods his head in affirmation.

Judge;  I need a verbal response sir, so the court reporter can record what you're saying.

Respondent:  Yes, we're getting back together.

The courtroom erupts in thunderous applause.  The judge starts pounding the gavel. 

Judge:  Quiet in the courtroom...

And for a moment you think you're watching a scene from Divorce Court. 

Does this really happen?  Yes!  Not everyday but it does happen.  Sometimes, couples reconcile and stop their divorce.  The legal way to do this would be to have the divorce petition dismissed.  Also, any response requesting divorce would need to be dismissed too.

Last Saturday I had the pleasure to attend an inspiring Marriage Enrichment Workshop with my husband which was sponsored by Turning Point Christian Church, www.TurningPointLA.com.  The workshop was taught by the dynamic Joe Beam of Family Dynamics Institute, www.FamilyDynamics.net.  Joe has done great work in the field of 1) Marriage Enrichment and 2) Saving Marriages in Crisis.  Going to marriage enrichment classes are great because they teach couples about the art of communication and growing together.  I say people go to college, graduate school, medical school, law school for "upteen" years and continue on with continuing education credits but do not devote the same passion to building a healthy marrige.  After "I Do" we do not magically become relationship experts.  Having a healthy marriage is a verb... 

Many people going through divorce have no desire to turn back.  The picture has faded to black and they are ready to move on.  From personal experience, I can share that is how I felt in my first marriage which ended in divorce.  For those, however, who want to reconcile and are willing to do the work it takes --- there is hope because it has been done! 

Many Blessings,

Pam

Share What You Know

Once a month I'll be devoting a post to Share What You Know.  This will be a time to share what you know and empower others.  Share whatever you've been learning that would be of benefit to others.  The topic is up to you.  For example, information may range from divorce planning -- to real estate investing -- to cooking. 

Yesterday, I went to a great conference about values based leadership and learned so much!  Information on the group that put on the conference can be found at www.principlebasedleadership.org.  There were so many talented people attending and teaching at this event.  One thing I learned amongst many things is that circumstances do not determine the course of a woman or man's life.  Each person gets to choose how they will respond to their circumstances.  They can choose to overcome and find solutions or be overwhelmed and paralyzed.  How any given person responds will be guided, consciously or unconsciously by their values.  Take time to identify the values important to you. Examine what's in your heart.  Keep the good values and let go of the bad values or replace them with good values.   

Good Books: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Good to Great, The Bible. 

Happy Reading!

Pam